She's running around with a wrench in her hand, this woman who loves me. She is installing a new dishwasher, and I am holding the flashlight. When I ask what I can do to help she says, "You can just sit there and look pretty."
Well...that is what I do best.
She gets all the hoses hooked up properly and it's time to plug it in. Then realizes it has the wrong electrical plug and she'll have to rewire it.
By this time, I'm tapping my pretty little foot because I'm bored and I would rather go out for a drink.
So I say, "Can't you find a man to do that, honey?"
I never knew someone's face could turn so red, so fast.
(This is, apparently, the wrong thing to say to a lesbian.)
What I should have added was electrical work makes me nervous
and I'd rather see a man electrocuted than her...
So now we're having a debate: was this comment an example of my internalized heterosexism? That men should do men's work and women should do women's work?
I really don't think so. I was raised by a feminist in the 70s. If I wanted to become a heart surgeon or a politician or a pilot, being a girl was not going to stop me.
Is it just going to take a little while longer to unlearn the past 35 years of gender role socialization?
Or maybe I just really wanted a drink.
What do you think?